Certainly, my oldest daughter text messages, posts, and video talks. Yes, she is acutely concious of when it is “time” to freshen up the wardrobe with a few new pieces from the current fashion trends. Yes, this lady often rolls her sight at my “weird” behaviors. And yes, friends are at the very best of her sharing list these days.
I was truly impressed by her expression of deep wisdom that has applied many of us divorces, health illnesses, and endless searches because of different veins of the exterior world to figure out. What my own dear girl was declaring through the example of summer season camp–one of any likely outer examples–probably resonates with most of us when looked at strongly.
She went on to give the example of seeing quite definitely that she doesn’t need to go anywhere specific (camp), do anything special (canoe) or be anything numerous (a camper) to feel authentic, open, connected and free. While she undoubtedly views camp as a great thing, she knows that the lady with enough just as she is by means of or without camp to remind her of that internal knowing.
While some parents drive status, monetary reward and upward societal movement for their children–none of which are bad per say–beyond those outdoor pursuits, my deepest heart’s desire for mine can be voiced most succinctly through Shakespeare, “To thine own do it yourself be true. ” EnLIGHTenment at its best.
Yes, my son has her challenges, her snarky attitudes, her minutes of self-doubt. Yes, she can sometimes be mean to the girl’s siblings, sassy to the girl’s parents, generally ornery. Yet nevertheless, underneath it all are ever-expanding and deep cracks of self-awareness, self-love and true concern for others that will serve but not only her, but the world most importantly, quite well.
Although we encouraged all of our infants to try overnight camp at least once, we have told her that your decision to return is now totally up to her. As all the discussion ensued, I became almost mesmerized by the girl’s capacity to articulate her vantage point on the subject.
Indeed, a typical teenager in so many ways, Aside from underneath the North Face overcoat and the Ugg boots, behind the gaggle of giddy girlfriends and the fluorescent screen, and even beyond our seductive family discussions and distributed dinners, there lies your self-awareness and interior blossoming that seems unfathomable for a child her age.
She even voiced that the songs about sisterhood, respect, and caring, a large number of with a “free to be you” theme, seemed a bit funny to her now, expressing that while appreciative in the sentiment, she hoped who her fellow campers felt free to be themselves beyond the activities in nature, communal cabins, and family restaurants. In short, everywhere.
She assured me that she has not been “knocking” camp in any way and will choose to return, but if she does go back to get another year or three, it would not be since camp experience allows the girl’s to feel more traditional in any way. Her return would be based on the conscious, sole (soul) choice to attend simply because she enJOYs the experience in no way because it is a “safe” place to be herself fully in the world.
Not necessarily what I experienced several years back (alright twenty-six years back to be exact) with the tender age of age 14. Recently my daughter and I were discussing irrespective of whether she would attend, once again, a three week all girls’ camp for the junior high summer in a row.
Using a palpable gratitude for all for the opportunities and lessons learned from her previous camp experiences, she began to talk about her deeper thoughts on this kind of subject and beyond. She shared that while camp is touted as a destination to be fully and legitimately yourself, create a sisterhood, extend a connection to nature, and explore your core throughout contemplation and solitude, the point of it all is to come to understand that inner connection is available anywhere, anytime, and the most importantly in the NOW.
We do not need to go anywhere special or do something out of the ordinary to live our own truth. This means that, freedom to be comfortable in this own skin should not be saved for places that we visit three weeks a year. Self-Love can be cultivated in all techniques, always.